This meme popped up on my social media this morning and it was timely as this morning I was forced to face a situation I’ve been avoiding and make a decision that I really do not want to make.
Parenting is hard, parenting teens and tweens who are at the stage where they question everything is even harder, and doing so with someone who you happily divorced is hardest of all. But regardless of what The Ex and I feel about towards each other, our number one priority remains our children and this morning we had a heart to heart about some things that have been going on and actually easily agreed that some changes need to be made.
As we go into a new year Music Man and I were talking and I told him that back in the summer of 2014 I made a resolution to stand up for myself more, no matter the cost. What it’s cost me is a life I never imagined, working and living in an area I never thought I’d be in.
And it’s the best thing that ever happened to me. Along the way the fact I am being watched by my precious children has given me strength to stand up to those who treat others (me including) unfairly. It hasn’t always been easy, and it’s cost me friendships, relationships, jobs and money. But oh has it been worth it to know my children are learning to stand up for what is right, and to not let others take advantage of your kindness.
You can be kind and stand firm. You can be nice and refuse to be taken advantage of. The meme above is right. Those affected will notice the change in your behavior, but never accept they are the reason you changed. That’s their problem though.
To those that have seen this change in me and perhaps wonder why, I strongly encourage you to ask me what happened. It may be something you did, it may be something someone else did. It may just be something I saw in myself and changed.
Change is never easy, but rarely is it bad.